I was the first person to arrive at a meeting. The second person was Mr Lee. No obviously that is not his real name... for security and personal reasons I won't mention real names. It was the first time I met Mr Lee so he basically have no idea who I am, and vice versa.
The ice breaking session suddenly reached the "Are you married yet?" point. He bravely asked me the question. So I just honestly answered, "No..."
"Haiyaaaa... You banyak cantik belum ada calon kaaaa? Kahwin saja la maaaa... dalam sini pun banyak lelaki bujang oooo..."
(Translation : "Haiyaaa... a pretty face like you still not married aaaa? Here got many single man maaa...")
Well, I have nothing to defend myself against so I just casually laughed. And he went on...
"Nowadays ha... There are more men than woman you know... so chances are slim now for you..."
And I corrected him, "Mr Lee, It's the fact that there are less quality men than women... I can't just go marry anyone, right? Just for the sake of being married..."
And Mr Lee responded with the most cruel yet true statement in the history of marriage talks...
"Iyaaa betul tu... Tapi kan... I tengok banyak lecturer perempuan main kahwin saja dengan mana-mana lelaki wooo... Main sapu ja sapa-sapa..."
(Translation :"You're right, but I see many lecturers just marry whoever they can find...") -i.e "desperate".
I forgot how I replied to him but it just ended with a laugh. Our "bitter-truth" conversation was interrupted when a fellow colleague entered and managed to change the subject.
But wow... I always had these kind of thoughts in my own head, I never really had the courage to say it out loud. Mr Lee's intentions was probably sincere and meant no harm. I should have reminded him that not everyone has the same love/life story.Everyone has their own version of "How I met your mother." You can't just just go around judge people based on to whom they are married to. Plus, if they wanna marry "whoever" they want, It's obviously not to impress you. :)
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