Single... "senang"

7 years I have worked in this education system. 7 years and I have been to 3 polytechnics (plus 1 university) . Some people are lucky. 20 years and still in the same place, same desk, same environment. Talk about being scared of changes. But hey, who am I to judge? I'm single. It's easy for me to move around the country anytime and live anywhere.

That's what they say. Single. Easy. Free. As opposed to having a husband and kids they have to drag around like some kind of burden. Well hey, I probably won't understand it yet. All I have right now is myself and Nugget. I was sent on earth by aliens in a UFO. I have noone in my life to worry about. Right?

LOL

Bullshit. Single people may seem "easy" to be put here and there. In a life where the ultimate goal is to be married with children, they seem to forget to see things through our perspective. Try live the single life in a country where ALL your friends are married with kids. Try carry that loneliness around. Try having no choice but to depend on your own independence to work your way through life. Try being single and live a billion miles away from your family, your parents, the only family you have? Try having no husband to come home to, no kids to worry about, noone to share your problems. You think we don't have problems? Open your mind a bit, we do. We just have different problems, one you could never understand once you say I do. (Unless you undo it by divorce, of course).

Of course I enjoy being single. That's the kind of person I have grown to be. I don't burden myself with the need to be married. I enjoy spending my own money for myself and going wherever whenever I want to. Yes, it gets lonely sometimes. But I get over it quickly once I log on to Barolyra and live my virtual life kicking ass like I do in reality. After dating series of losers I had decided to be single and independent with the help and support of my mom and dad. They are my priority just like your husband and kids are yours. So when you say "ala Anne bujang... senang nak pindah mana-mana...". Take a minute and walk a mile in my shoes. I make it easy. You have no idea how my reality is. You have no idea how moving here and there and still come home to an empty house is like.

It's fine if you enjoy comparing life with others. I understand your problems, I do. I know how hard it must be to move to new places where you have to put your kids into new schools, adjust your routines of being both a mom and career woman... Of course I get it. But at the end of the day, you get to see your kids' faces, and everything is worth it, no? You get to divide your problems in half when you come home to a husband. At least you have a husband to pay your bills and fix your car and be there when you get into trouble.

Everyone has problems. Stop forcing us to empathize with yours when you can't open your eyes to see our side of the world.